Enhancing Relationships: Hypnotic Letter Writing For The Mind
When I talk about relationships in general, I like to mention a few things first…
In the earlier days of my career as a hypnotherapist, many people used to ask me if I had plans to create and put together hypnosis tracks or a programme to help enhance their relationships and I tended to give a fairly stock reply when I responded in the negative to the question.
My stock reply was that I had struggled with relationships myself, not found someone I had felt capable of committing any substantial part of my life to and despite having encountered a number of relationships, I had not deemed any of them to have been particular successful. Who was I to therefore advise on how to have effective relationships?
I had many great friendships and professional relationships, just not the kind of personal relationships people were asking me about. Maybe I could have suggested that my listeners do as I say, not as I do, but that felt disingenuous, so I never wrote about it or really worked with relationships a great deal.
However… Just as I had finished reading Osho’s book on the art of aloneness, I met the woman who was to be my wife. She became my wife, and we have had several years of what I consider to be a truly remarkable and wonderful relationship; a marriage that has already had to endure some incredible challenges that we have overcome together. Some of the things we encountered may have pulled people apart, however, we have grown stronger and share something that only the two of us truly appreciate.
We have a lot of joy, laughter, mutual respect, support and know each other incredibly well.
Using Self-Hypnosis to Advance Ourselves in Order to Advance Relationships
At the time of writing this, it was our wedding anniversary and as we celebrated another year together and look toward many more years of happiness, I have started to feel much better equipped to offer up techniques and strategies for helping others with enhancing their relationships. The requests have continued and so I am finally yielding to such requests and several hypnosis tracks on offer here are going to be showcasing ways of using hypnosis to help advance ourselves to subsequently enhance our relationships.
Note that I said “advance ourselves” because we can only really be fully in control of ourselves within our relationships.
The Therapeutic Gains of Writing
Within therapy, many therapists have their clients write and use journals for all manner of things; from highlighting eating habits and recording food intake, to helping focus on the things that made you feel happy that day, there is evidence that suggests writing things down has much beneficial therapeutic gain.
Many people write diaries and find them to have therapeutic gain, even if that is not the aim, and my own candy floss machine theory on writing thoughts down is one I talk about a great deal with clients and students alike (you can read about my candy floss theory here).
More sophisticated processes of writing issues down have shown that they can be incredibly effective in therapy too – in cognitive behavioural therapy, thought forms are very useful for helping to deal with unhelpful cognitions.
I could go on and on about the virtues of writing stuff down for therapeutic gain. I am using this in a rather different manner with this hypnosis audio track though…
Within this hypnosis audio track I am offering up a process that can be used for a wide variety of issues, but that we are using in a very particular way.
Expressing Yourself in Relation to Previous Relationship Experiences
Sometimes our previous experiences with relationships have resulted in us being, thinking and feeling a particular way and may even have resulted in us having problematic ways of being when we are in a relationship. Relationships that we are keen to work may encounter problems as a result.
With this hypnosis audio session, you go through a process of writing a letter whilst hypnotised and you get the opportunity to express your self, create some emotional clarity, enhance your peace of mind, and experience some relief. The main aim is that you benefit today by expressing yourself in relation to previous experiences, by writing to someone you were previously in a relationship with, that perhaps caused you some ongoing problems; this may include you being overly cautious, jealous, angry, impatient or untrusting as well as feeling insecure or unable to express your feelings or communicate in a way that represents how you feel with accuracy. This process may offer you a way of getting some closure on relationships that ended in a particular way, and thus leading the way to some emotional freedom and even optimism as you embark on other relationships.
This process aims to make us more effective in our current relationship. Or in our prospective relationships.
Sometimes issues can get bottled up and this session is a lovely way to be able to let go of that in a natural and harmonious, gentle way.